So..I have had trouble breastfeeding from the minute my son was born...it crushed me then and it crushes me now...
I just always had this thought in my head that I would be like my mom...she had 8 children and breastfed every single one of them until they were two years old.
I never thought I would have a problem...my breasts tripled in size one month after I got pregnant so I figured I definitely had enough room to hold milk for my little guy!
But when he was born...I waited and waited for my milk to come. I held him and stayed up with him for 5 nights straight as he cried and cried from hunger. Finally, it seemed that I started to produce enough to at least nourish him.
That lasted for about 6 weeks. I then noticed my son wasn't gaining any weight. I couldn't believe it! I was going to have to feed him formula - my poor son was starving! I felt so bad then and cried and cried for days! I not only couldn't produce milk like a mother should but I was also starving my son and not providing for him like I should! It took a long time to get past it and accept feeding him formula (I still don't know if I am past it...)
I finally came to grips with the fact that I would supplement the formula with my breastmilk. I pumped and pumped and fed and fed as much as I could to keep my supply up! I told myself I wasn't going to give up - my son would get my immunity and vitamins from breastfeeding and still get full from the formula. It got to the point where I was literally feeding him every 1 hour! But I wasn't going to give up! It was so important to me!
Now he is 7 months old...for the last couple of months it has been a fight every time to get him to latch on and suck for awhile...I knew he was getting milk but he just didn't have the patience anymore to sit and drink from a slow producing breast...But I still wasn't going to give up....I wanted to make it to at least 1 year!
Well, lately my hopes are disappearing. The last couple of days he has just cried when I tried to breastfeed him. He doesn't want it all anymore.
It is so hard for me to write this...but I think it might finally help me accept it. I am finally done breastfeeding my son. It kills me..it makes me feel like a failure as a mother. I have nothing against formula feeding women...after all I am one. But I just had this hope in my mind of at least supplementing with breastmilk until he was one.
I seriously can't come to grips with it. I keep thinking "I need to breast feed him when he wakes up" or "What shirt or bra should I wear today that will give quick access to feed him". I just can't seem to accept it. It makes me so sad and I cry as I write this.
I don't understand why it was so hard for me. I don't understand why God wouldn't want me to feed my son the best food he can have at this age. I don't understand why I couldn't provide for my son as a mother should. Why can't I breastfeed him sufficiently when I want to so bad but yet see mothers who can but choose not to! These are all questions that are running through my head and I can't seem to help it.
Will I ever be able to breastfeed my children in the future?
I hope some of you can give me some insight, support, similar stories or prayers. Most of all I need prayers to accept this and move on. I sometimes feel like the only one - the only bad mother who can't breastfeed her child like she should....I just can't seem to get past it.